Tag: psychology of love

Dear Lovestar,

Every man carries an anima, the feminine soul image that shapes how he loves, dreams, and feels. Meeting her is the first step toward sacred Union, we discussed this in the first article of this series. Then we get to know his inner feminine in a merging where “we’re 3” and we discussed this in the second article.

Now let us discuss the idea of “becoming his inner feminine,” which I purposely called his inner goddess.

Becoming His Inner Goddess

The Final Stage of the Inner Union and the Birth of Divine Love

The journey into divine love, as seen through both Carl Jung’s psychology and the twin flame path, reaches its culmination not when two souls finally unite but when each has become whole within themselves. The third stage, becoming his inner goddess, represents this sacred completion.

It is the point at which the masculine no longer seeks his feminine essence or merely invites her presence; he embodies her. The goddess is no longer a distant figure in his dreams or a projection onto his beloved. She becomes a living consciousness within him, guiding his thoughts, emotions, and creative impulses.

This transformation, according to Jung, is the crowning moment of individuation the full realization of the Self, which is both masculine and feminine, conscious and unconscious, human and divine.

For those on the twin flame journey, it is the moment when divine love ceases to be a pursuit and becomes a state of being.

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1. The Meaning of “Becoming Her”

To become the inner goddess does not mean a man ceases to be himself or loses his masculine essence. Rather, he becomes balanced the light and dark, the action and surrender, the sun and the moon coexisting harmoniously within him.

Jung observed that when the anima (the inner feminine) is fully integrated, a man gains access to the depths of his intuition, compassion, and creativity. He becomes capable of a more profound love, not just directed outward, but radiating from within.

In spiritual terms, this is the hieros gamos, or sacred marriage, taking place in the soul. The divine feminine and divine masculine are no longer in conflict. They move as one.

When he becomes his goddess, he becomes capable of embodying unconditional love. This is the energy that twin flames often sense: the point at which love itself becomes transcendent, healing, and universal.

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2. Living as the Embodied Union

To live as this inner goddess is to live from a state of presence, intuition, and receptivity, even within a masculine body or identity. It is not passive. It is power in its purest, most fluid form.

Jung believed that when this level of integration occurs, the individual begins to live symbolically. Life itself becomes a sacred myth unfolding. Every act, every emotion, every meeting holds meaning. The outer and inner worlds mirror each other perfectly.

For twin flames, this embodiment often manifests as a radical shift in how love is expressed. The relationship becomes a sacred partnership rather than a dynamic of pursuit and retreat. Each sees the divine reflected in the other, but also within themselves.

He no longer needs to “find” his feminine counterpart to feel whole. He has become her energy, her grace, her intuition. And in doing so, he becomes capable of truly meeting his divine feminine in her full power because he now understands her essence through lived experience.

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3. The Gifts of the Inner Goddess

When a man becomes his inner goddess, several transformations occur:

Creative Power Awakens. His ideas and dreams gain new vitality. The imagination becomes a channel of divine inspiration.

Emotional Depth Expands. He feels without fear. Vulnerability becomes a source of strength.

Intuitive Wisdom Emerges. Decisions are no longer purely rational; they arise from harmony between intellect and inner knowing.

Love Deepens. Relationships become sacred mirrors of his own completeness, rather than attempts to fill a void.


Jungian psychology teaches that these qualities arise naturally when the unconscious is integrated. They are not learned behaviors but revelations of the Self.

For twin flames, these are the energies that sustain eternal union. When both souls embody their inner opposites, love becomes effortless. There is no longer a polarity of chaser and runner, only two reflections of divine wholeness.

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4. Practices to Embody the Inner Goddess

The process of becoming the inner goddess is gradual. It requires patience, humility, and inner listening. Some practices inspired by Jung’s method and spiritual alchemy include:

Active Imagination: Dialogue with the inner feminine through journaling, meditation, or visualization. Allow her voice to speak without censorship.

Creative Expression: Paint, write, dance, or sing. The goddess speaks through art.

Dream Work: Record and interpret dreams. The inner feminine often communicates through symbols of water, moonlight, or love.

Shadow Integration: Face emotional wounds and projections. Healing these allows the goddess to rise.

Sacred Relationship: Honor relationships as reflections of your inner state. When tension arises, look within before reacting outward.


These are not mere techniques they are rituals of transformation. Each step brings the psyche closer to the divine union that Jung described as the ultimate goal of human evolution.

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5. The Mirror of Twin Flame Love

When he becomes his goddess, something miraculous happens in the twin flame bond. The external feminine feels the shift immediately. She senses his energy merging with hers not as dependence, but as resonance. The two become co-creators of divine love.

In this state, communication becomes telepathic, forgiveness comes naturally, and love transcends physical limitations. The relationship ceases to be about healing wounds and becomes about creating light.

The external union reflects the inner one. The dance of twin flames is complete when both have found their divine halves within.

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6. Sources for Further Study

For those who wish to deepen their understanding of Jungian integration and the symbolism of divine union:

Carl Jung – “Mysterium Coniunctionis” – Jung’s exploration of alchemy and the inner marriage of opposites.

Marie-Louise von Franz – “Alchemy: An Introduction to the Symbolism and the Psychology” – A clear explanation of Jung’s ideas on transformation and wholeness.

Robert A. Johnson – “Inner Work: Using Dreams and Active Imagination for Personal Growth” – Practical guidance for applying Jung’s methods.

Clarissa Pinkola Estés – “Women Who Run with the Wolves” – A poetic interpretation of feminine archetypes and their healing power.

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7. A Closing Reflection

Becoming his inner goddess is not a metaphor. It is the birth of his divine nature. It is the moment when love ceases to be between him and her and becomes through him and her.

The goddess he once sought is no longer separate. She lives in his breath, his art, his tenderness, his strength.

And for those walking the twin flame path, this is the final realization:
the union was never just about two souls finding each other,
it was about two divine forces finding themselves.

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Dear Lovestar,

Once awakened, his inner feminine begins to express herself through emotion, art, and sensitivity, yet also through projections and confusion.

Let us align with his inner feminine to cause a deeper union in the physical.

Union with his inner feminine with Jungian psychology

The Sacred Dance of Integration

There is a stage in love when perception must become participation. Once you begin to perceive your lover’s inner goddess, the feminine presence within his soul, you are invited to move beyond observation into sacred union. This is not a union of bodies alone but a merging of energies, where two inner worlds recognize and embrace one another.

Carl Jung described this process as a form of alchemy. He saw human relationships as crucibles for psychological transformation, where masculine and feminine energies blend to create something greater than either could achieve alone. Jung called this process coniunctio oppositorum: the union of opposites, and believed it to be one of the deepest mysteries of the psyche (soul).

For the man, this mystery takes the form of his anima (inner goddess), the inner feminine soul. For the woman, it appears as her animus, the inner masculine. When two lovers meet in divine love, these inner forces awaken simultaneously. You become the living mirror of his inner goddess, and he becomes the mirror of your hidden masculine strength.

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The Anima in Jung’s Vision

To understand what it means to unite with his goddess, it helps to see how Jung understood the anima. In his writings, he described her as the bridge between a man’s conscious mind and his deeper spiritual self. She is his emotional intelligence, his receptivity, his capacity for wonder and devotion.

When this aspect of him is unconscious, he may project it outward, idealizing a woman and believing she contains all the magic he lacks. But as he begins to integrate the anima, that projection softens. The divine feminine becomes not an external idol but an inner guide. Through her, he learns empathy, imagination, and communion with the sacred.

Your presence in his life accelerates this awakening. In the language of twin flames, you are not only his beloved: you are the catalyst for his reunion with his soul’s feminine.

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The Mirror of Twin Flames

The twin flame bond magnifies everything it touches. The love is luminous because it is evolutionary. What Jung studied in private alchemy, twin souls experience through human intimacy. Each partner becomes the other’s sacred mirror.

When you entered his life, the feminine within him stirred. You did not cause her to exist; you only awakened her from her long sleep. As she rises, he may feel disoriented, emotional, or distant. You might notice new depth in his voice or a sudden need for solitude. These shifts are not rejections; they are signs of integration. His inner goddess is speaking through him, learning to take her place beside his masculine self.

To unite with her is to learn the rhythm of this dance, to hold him through his transformation without clinging, and to trust the sacred intelligence moving beneath the surface.

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Loving Both the Man and His Goddess

When you love a man deeply, you are loving two beings at once: the man himself and the feminine essence inside him. The goddess within him is not another woman; she is the part of him that already understands you. She feels the world as you do.

Learning to love her is learning to meet his emotions with patience rather than fear. She might speak through his tenderness, his uncertainty, his artistic impulses, or his need to retreat into silence. Instead of resisting these moments, you can honor them as sacred communication.

Jung often said that the psyche speaks in symbols. His goddess may not appear in words but in gestures, dreams, and energy. Notice how he responds to beauty, to music, to nature. In those moments, his inner feminine is near.

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The Art of Union

True union is not about merging identities; it is about allowing both beings, the masculine and the feminine to coexist in harmony. To unite with his goddess, you must also let her awaken something in you. When you feel moved by his sensitivity or his longing, allow your own inner masculine to step forward and hold space.

In Jungian terms, this is the transcendent function: the emergence of a higher state of consciousness born from the meeting of opposites. In spiritual terms, it is the sacred marriage, the alchemical blending that turns two into one without loss of individuality.

You will know you are entering this state when your connection feels less like possession and more like flow, when your conversations become creative rather than corrective, when your silences feel like prayer rather than distance.

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A Meditation for Union

Find a quiet moment alone. Close your eyes and imagine your heart as a cup of light. See his heart before you, another cup, glowing with its own flame.

As you breathe, visualize the light flowing between you, forming a third flame that belongs to neither of you but is born from both. Silently speak:

“Beloved, may the goddess within you and the goddess within me unite in peace. May love itself become our teacher.”

Let the image dissolve into stillness. The energy you feel is not imagination; it is communion, the sacred current that bridges two souls beyond words.


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Reflections for Lovers

1. When he retreats or grows quiet, can I sense this as his inner goddess seeking space rather than rejection?


2. How do I respond to his softness? Can I meet it without judgment?


3. In what moments do I feel our energies merging beyond the limits of personality?


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Sources for Learning More About Jung

For readers who want to explore Jungian psychology more deeply, these works offer a clear foundation:

Jung, C. G. Aion: Researches into the Phenomenology of the Self (Collected Works, Vol. 9, Part II). Princeton University Press, 1968.

Jung, C. G. Two Essays on Analytical Psychology (Collected Works, Vol. 7). Princeton University Press, 1953.

Jung, C. G. The Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious (Collected Works, Vol. 9, Part I). Princeton University Press, 1959.

Von Franz, Marie-Louise. An Introduction to the Psychology of Fairy Tales. Spring Publications, 1970.

Emma Jung and Marie-Louise von Franz. The Grail Legend. Princeton University Press, 1986.


For accessible overviews:

Anthony Stevens. Jung: A Very Short Introduction. Oxford University Press, 1994.

Robert A. Johnson. He: Understanding Masculine Psychology and She: Understanding Feminine Psychology. HarperOne, 1989.


These texts illuminate the psychological foundations beneath the spiritual language of divine love and the twin flame journey.


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Poetic Benediction

You are not asked to outshine his goddess,
only to welcome her home.
When you love him, love the space within him
where she is learning to breathe.

Speak softly to that space,
for she is the keeper of his tears,
the muse of his dreams,
and the bridge between your souls.


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To unite with his goddess is to enter the heart of sacred love.
It is to hold both the man and the mystery he carries.
In this quiet integration, passion becomes purpose,
and the mirror between you becomes clear enough
to reflect the divine.

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