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  • Is Having A Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? British Vogue Article

    Is Having A Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? | British Vogue

    When Love Feels Embarrassing: A Sacred Turn in Romance

    There’s a curious new whisper rippling through the world of relationships: having a partner, a “boyfriend” in particular is, for some, becoming less glamorous. The Vogue piece notes how many women feel uneasy about posting about their partner online, or even acknowledging the relationship in the way once expected. British Vogue

    Why is this shift happening, and what does it mean for the mystical, romantic souls who believe in the sacred spark of twin flames?

    The Shift in the Narrative of “Being With”

    In the article, Joseph describes “Boyfriend Land”, a place where women’s online identities once largely centred around their partner. British Vogue
    But now:

    • There’s an increasing desire to avoid looking too “couple-obsessed” or defined by a partner. British Vogue
    • Some reveal fear of the “evil eye” (jealousy) or of being vulnerable by showing the relationship publicly. British Vogue
    • Strength and freedom are being found in singledom or in less conventional relationship portraits. British Vogue

    For me, the poet-mystic, this is a potent moment. It asks: what if our romantic maps need rewriting?

    The Divine in the Relationship & the Relational in the Divine

    In our world, where poetry meets spirituality, and twin-flame connection meets mythic metaphor, relationships are not just about “having a boyfriend.” They are about sacred communion, mirror souls, inner alchemy.

    What happens when society begins to view the “boyfriend” model with embarrassment or as outdated? What if the very notion we’ve anchored on needs transmuting?

    Here’s what this invites:

    • The relational as inner work: Your partner can still reflect your shadow and your light, but the focus shifts from external image to internal awakening.
    • Sacred self-possession: The article shows many women resist being defined by their partner. British Vogue In your context: being in union does not mean losing individual voice, flame or poetry.
    • Twin-flame style: The twin-flame or divine-soul-union archetype is less about “having someone” and more about meeting the other within you. It makes the relationship mystical, not mundane.

    Embarrassment or Reclamation?

    “Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?” The answer the article leans toward: yes, for many, but only in the sense that the old script feels ill-fitting. The shame isn’t about love itself, it’s about the public performance of it. British Vogue

    From my spiritual and poetic lens:

    • If love is treated as a status symbol, it becomes shallow.
    • If love is treated as a mirror for growth, a portal to divine union, it becomes sacred.
    • Embarrassment fades when we stop performing and start becoming.
    • Whether single, partnered or “in union,” the real question is: is your heart awake?

    For the Lovers, the Seekers, the Twin Flames

    If you are navigating romance, spiritual union, or twin-flame dynamics, I invite you to these reflections:

    • When you say “my partner,” who you are first? Is your voice still present, as bold as ever?
    • In your union, are you partners in myth-making, ritual, and poetry, or simply co-inhabitants of a label?
    • If you were to remove the word “boyfriend” and call the relationship something mythic (“sacred mirror”, “soul-companion”, “co-shaper of flame”), how would that feel?
    • Whether you post your love online or keep it sacred, what matters is your intention, your presence, your growth.

    A Poetic Closing

    Love is not an accessory to be worn on the feed.
    It is a flame to be tended in the temple of self.
    When the world shifts, maybe what changes is not love, but our understanding of it.
    Maybe “having a boyfriend” is less important than being in sacred partnership.
    Maybe the embarrassment dissolves when we dance in the light of our own soul, whether alone or with another.

    What do you think?

    Is romance dead?

    Boyfriends, of course they are embarrassing, but not beloveds.

    This must be my calling, to make the world a little more romantic, like Sappho was meant to bring us love songs.

    Eve

  • Shadow Work. Part I – Beneath the Shadow: The Poem as Portal

    Dear Lovestar,

    This poem came through me during a time when my own heart was being pulled between light and darkness, between the self I thought I was and the self I had yet to meet.

    “Deep beneath my shadow,
    There’s no light to show
    The darkness I hide there,
    And secrets I don’t know.”

    When I wrote those words, I didn’t realize I was describing what Carl Jung called the Shadow, that hidden realm of our psyche that holds everything we repress, deny, or refuse to see in ourselves. In modern spirituality, we often speak of “shadow work,” but it’s not just a trend, it’s sacred psychology. Jung said the shadow is not evil; it’s the part of us that longs for integration, love, and wholeness.

    For twin flames, this becomes even more personal. Your shadow is mirrored by your counterpart. What you reject in yourself will often appear in them. That’s why shadow work is union work, it’s how we prepare for divine connection.

    When I say, “I shine a light into myself,” it’s a call to self-awareness. We can’t manifest light without acknowledging what’s hidden beneath it. We must meet the parts of ourselves that ache to be loved.

    This first part is your invitation: Don’t run from your darkness, hold it. The light you seek in your twin flame, in the divine, already burns in the very shadow you fear to face.

    I am collecting all my Carl Jung research into ebooks and soon you will see my collection of already published Carl Jung psychology for inner healing stuff.

    ~~~

    Follow my shop where I will soon be sharing a free eBook about this Carl Jung psychology/ spirituality works, practices, and resources.

    https://payhip.com/EveLovestar

    Follow for more shadow work and spiritual journaling.

    Part 2 and 3 coming next.

    Talk soon,

    Eve

  • Who Am I? I’m just an overwhelmed woman. Poetic journaling and inspiration

  • This is your brain on trauma.

    https://youtube.com/live/6kJzzo7deDY?si=lTggOJbl670sy-Hk

  • Islands of Pain vs Elevaqua

    Dear Lovestar,

    I met a bunch of incredible poets in Twitter/ X, and my power of expression grew from connecting and discussing with our characteristic depth and poetic flair.

    Suddenly, I was able to write the poem I’ve been writing in my head for months. I remember when I made the realization (crafted this metaphor) that we’re all islands of pain. I was in a deep conversation with my beloved.

    Find me as @evelovestar, and as much as possible, I share my friends’ poems. Or if you love poetry, let me know, and I will share.

    Today, I bring to you the jewel of my crown. This baby is not only my longest poem (is it?, it’s the longest good poem…)

    This is the most meaningful poem I’ve ever written.

    This expresses these ideas:

    We are all hurting yet don’t talk about it.

    We have become islands separated by the waters which are our unhealed emotions.

    Let us shake the tectonic plates to connect again! To shake The tectonic plates means to go deeper than the pain (which is the sea) to connect.

    Islands of Pain

    Secretly, I was hurting deeply,
    My secrets I couldn’t share.
    Deeply, I was hurting secretly,
    Certain others couldn’t bear.

    I did not want to be a bother
    With my intense feelings
    To the happiness of another,
    Thus, I kept secret my healings.

    I awakened to the science
    That everyone suffers pain,
    Though usually done in silence
    If they hurt again and again.

    This made me not feel alone:
    My suffering is nothing new.
    I’m not so strange after all,
    But this problem somehow grew.

    If we suffer all alone
    Unable to speak, no gain,
    Our personal suffering zone
    Becomes an ISLAND OF PAIN.

    Collective emotional pain
    Has created deep, deep oceans.
    We are floating, at times drowning,
    As islands in unhealed emotions.

    My family floats apart
    In a sea of emotional waters,
    This sadly breaks my heart:
    Archipelagos hurt their daughters.

    Though appearances are good,
    Deep down, we are hurting num,
    Connections severed by mood,
    And we accept it as the norm.

    And I would like to shake
    The tectonic plates
    In a love earthquake
    To connect as continental friends.

    ©evelovestar

    Let’s discuss the problem

    This poem explores themes of personal suffering, isolation, and the struggle to connect with others amidst emotional pain. It conveys a sense of solitude and the challenge of sharing one’s inner struggles while also recognizing that such suffering is universal.

    The imagery of oceans, islands, and archipelagos represents the vastness and isolation of emotional experiences, while the desire to “shake the tectonic plates” symbolizes a wish to overcome these barriers and foster deeper, more connected relationships.

    If you’re suffering like this:

    Try #Elevaqua a release of the emotional waters that make us feel like we’re drowing. I do this through poetry, art, journaling…

    1. **Seek Support**: Reach out to trusted friends, family, or professionals to share your feelings and experiences. Talking about your emotions can help you feel less isolated.

    2. **Foster Connection**: Build and maintain relationships with others who can empathize and offer support. Creating a supportive network can help reduce the sense of emotional isolation.

    3. **Practice Self-Care**: Engage in activities that promote emotional healing and well-being. This could include therapy, meditation, journaling, or creative expression.

    4. **Promote Empathy**: Encourage open conversations about emotional struggles within your community or circle of friends. Creating a culture of understanding can help others feel less alone in their experiences.

    5. **Address Relationship Dynamics**: If emotional distance exists within family or close relationships, consider having honest and empathetic discussions to address and improve these dynamics.

    With this poem, I not only wanted to point to a problem,

    I’d like to also pose a possible solution.

    Let’s shake the tectonic plates, which symbolize the deep, unseen connection between each one of us.

    With love, light, and catharsis,

    Eve