Dear Lovestar,
Can we have a difficult conversation with our love partner while focusing on love, connection, and union? I believe it’s all in the energy we go into the conversation with.
In fact, the intention we have going into the conversation alone doesn’t manifest the result. Triggers occur during difficult conversations. We can get triggered, or they can get triggered. Also, if our ego is involved, a fight might be the result. A misunderstanding so serious can occur that loving partners can up to break up during a tough conversation.
Up until now, my beloved and I have not been the best at communication. We mean well, but we’re both loners, we both had issues going into our relationship, and we’re both moody water signs. We misunderstand each other frequently. Now we know not to get emotional over a misunderstanding but to have a productive conversation instead.
I mean no judgment to anyone having an issue with this. I am learning this now. I write about the things I have learned the hard way mostly. I have learned how to have a difficult conversation with my lover, and we can come out of it with a deeper connection. I am teaching you what I have learned.
It’s not easy to be conscious when we feel disrespected, hurt, or emotional. However, what I’m suggesting is exactly to go into a difficult conversation consciously. Read through the list below, and you’ll notice that you will need to be conscious to be able to handle yourself in a way that you’ll manifest the best outcome for both parties.
I will elaborate further in tomorrow’s post.
Tips for having conscious, difficult conversations in love
Today, I offer you tips for having a difficult conversation with your love partner while focusing on deepening your connection and strengthening your love and union:
1. **Choose the Right Time and Place:** Find a time when both of you are relaxed and free from distractions. Choose a quiet and private space where you can talk openly without interruptions. Drop your cell phones.
2. **Set the Right Intentions:** Approach the conversation with the intention of understanding each other better and strengthening your relationship rather than blaming or accusing.
3. **Use “I” Statements:** Express your thoughts, feelings, and concerns using “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, say, “I feel…” instead of “You make me feel…”.
4. **Active Listening:** Practice active listening by fully focusing on what your partner is saying without interrupting. Show empathy and understanding by reflecting back what you hear to ensure you understand correctly. Don’t be thinking of your response while they talk.
5. **Express Empathy:** Show empathy towards your partner’s feelings and perspectives, even if you disagree. Validate their emotions and let them know you understand how they feel. Tell them something like “I understand how you’re feeling misunderstood” or “I understand how you could feel disrespected even though it wasn’t my intention.”
6. **Be Honest and Transparent:** Be honest about your feelings and concerns, even if they are difficult to express. Transparency builds trust and intimacy in the relationship. Practice. Tell them you’re having a hard time expressing this.
7. **Focus on Solutions:** Instead of dwelling on the problem, focus on finding solutions together. Brainstorm ideas and compromises that work for both of you to resolve the issue. Think of the future rather than the past.
8. **Maintain Calmness:** Stay calm and composed during the conversation, even if emotions run high. Take deep breaths and pause if needed to regain composure before continuing. Take a break if needed. Do not shout!
9. **Practice Patience and Understanding:** Understand that difficult conversations take time and may require multiple discussions to reach a resolution. Be patient with each other and avoid rushing the process.
10. **End on a Positive Note:** Conclude the conversation on a positive note, reaffirming your love and commitment to each other. Express gratitude for your partner’s willingness to engage in open communication. Hugs and caressing or a kiss and an “I love you” should end the conversation.
Remember, difficult conversations can be challenging, but they also present opportunities for growth and deeper connection in your relationship. Approach them with love, compassion, and a willingness to understand each other better.
I already had a difficult conversation with my lover, and I realized that I’ve been keeping a lot inside to keep the peace. The buildup was upsetting our peace, though…
So, I’ll be using these tips much more often.
This weekend, we have a date to chat 💛 ❤️ 😍
Which was your favorite?
When I have thought conversations with my man, #2,4,5 have offered the best results.
Thank you very much for reading, and if you loved this, follow this blog because I have lots of other love and union advice.
With love and ligh,
Eve, ready for this weekend: planned the outfit, the conversation, thinking about the lovemaking
Lovestar Temple🔥 🔥 