TRIGGER ALERT!!! WE DISCUSS SEX, ORGASMS, AND THE LACK OF ON THIS POST. MEANT FOR FEMALES. READ FOR INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES. ENGAGING SEXUALLY WITH A FEMALE? COME GET INSIGHT. WRITTEN WITH LOVE AND LIGHT FOR THE COLLECTIVE OF FEMALES.
Dear friend,
I was in a deep conversation with my beloved ❤️ when he mentioned how many women go their entire lives without experiencing an orgasm. We discussed the topic further and were baffled that only a tiny percentage of females are able to have an orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. Lucky us, and how do we spread the awareness that this is within reach for many more?
Why do I care about orgasms?
There are many reasons. One is my partner believes it’s hot. Whether he vocalizes it or not, my partner gets off getting me off. It not only deepens the connection and makes me open to more sex, but also my partner gets confirmation that he’s doing something very well and that I’m enjoying myself with him.
During an orgasm, there is a huge release of sexual energy that has interacted with my attentive lover. This energy has manifestation power. It’s a perfect time to set an intention.
Having an orgasm is a huge self steem boost, and it makes me feel better. My theory is that it also makes me look better, at least while the orgasm has the effect and their spell last a while.
I believe there are health benefits to having orgasms. Additionally, I believe it helps balance hormones, can help balance feminine and masculine energies within my body, and can help ground me. I can not prove these beliefs. I don’t have orgasms for their health benefits either. They just feel really, really good. They feel like bliss.
There is a healing power to having orgasms. Energetic, mental, and health manifestations of the two. Regular orgasms can be powerful, like therapy with a good therapist, orgasms can help get stuck energy out of the body, and this has helped me ascend, grow, transform, heal, and become who I am today.
Regular orgasms help manifest union. With my theory about them helping remove stuck energy out of the body, regular orgasms could trigger running and chasing but ultimately should help bring the lovers to union.
It’s said that orgasms increase the chances of becoming pregnant. (If not trying to get pregnant, use caution)
My personal experience
I, too, have experienced orgasmless sex. That is the sex that sucks that I wish I would have never settled for. I didn’t even think female orgasms existed until I was a woman and read about it in a magazine! I was told and taught about the monumental male orgasm with their creative power but never even informed about the bliss I too could experience and I would not feel that bliss until I met my beloved, and luckily for me, I was only 20.
If teenage girls were taught about the female orgasm, they would be less likely to give their bodies to undeserving partners and would not go into long-term relationships with mediocre partners. Girls would grow into women who are confident in their bodies and who are comfortable sharing their opinions and talking openly with their partners. Please do your part and let someone know of the incredible power of having an orgasm as a female.
My beloved 🔥🔥 who was made for me by God and set up to date me by the universe, is my orgasm giver. It’s his superpower, and I have been blessed, I know. I speak from my experience of what I have noticed in going from not enjoying sex to loving every moment of it and wanting more with the right partner. The right partner was key.
In my youth, in Cuba, I remember people said that girls fell in love with the first guy they had sex with. I never believed that. I believe that girls fall in love with the first guy who gives them an orgasm. She would be powerless to not fall in love.
What I believe is that in a relationship, if a girl still doesn’t love a man before he gives her her first orgasm, she will fall in love the moment she feels it.
Why am I not having orgasms?
I could be judging myself. If I’m thinking I don’t look good enough during sex, if I’m wondering if I look good or bad, if I’m trying to hide perceived body imperfections, if I’m trying to look a certain way rather than being vulnerably me, I can’t have an orgasm. But I have realized that in any position, we look hot. The imperfections are not noticeable. He is not looking at my huge belly. He is looking at his favorite part of me, and he does a great job of finding my sexiest side.
I could be judging my performance. If I’m thinking I’m doing a poor job during sex, I’ll likely not experience bliss. If I’m trying too hard, if I’m competing with his previous lover, or with some idea of what I should be doing, or if I mistakenly believe I have to act like some porn star, I will not have an orgasm. As a woman, I have found that I don’t have to be any of those things for my partner. The only way is to surrender without judgment! If I let go completely, I’ll feel bliss.
I could be judging my partner. Perhaps we are fighting or mad at each other. I will not have an orgasm if I choose to have sex with the wrong partner. It would not work if I dared compared him to a previous partner. For me, I have to feel safe with a man to even come close. His energy has to feel right. I should not have any questions of whether or not he’s cheating. I’m definitely not cheating. It’s not a one-time stand, a mistake, or a partner I want to break up with. It starts with the right partner, and I’m giving all of me because I trust him.
I could be judging the experience. If instead of enjoying every second of it, I’m in my mind, concerned if it’s too soon, too late, if I’m overcome by jealousy, if I think I will regret the experience, I would not expect to have an orgasm. However, I have learned in my connection that to enjoy lovemaking, I have to be present in that moment, and that means not thinking about anything that is not part of that experience or that could enhance the experience.
Tips to reach an orgasm
As a woman, since I only surrender my body to my beloved, the right guy, and my orgasm giver, only my overactive thinking mind could prevent me from enjoying the lovemaking experience, peaking with an orgasm. My belief is that to have a fulfilling sex life, a female must first have a worthy partner, and once that is accomplished, she needs to simply calm that overactive mind that prevents her from enjoying herself to the max through overthinking.
Thinking during the sexual act is the biggest thing I’ve noticed that can stop my pleasure. I don’t know how this works for males and only speak about what I know. If, during sex, a woman starts thinking about work or family drama, she will not have an orgasm. If her shopping list pops in her mind or her bills, her pleasure will fade. If a woman becomes preoccupied with anything at all during sex, she will not enjoy it much because, as a woman, this experience is internal.
For those of us who practice meditation, it’s easy to realize that lovemaking is the perfect meditative experience. After all, being in the moment is not letting our thoughts wander into the past or future, being in our current energy, feeling what we are feeling, being patient, and not rushing the experience, accepting, surrendering to the moment, being in a receptive mode, letting go of judgements…
Letting go of thoughts is difficult! It might even be impossible to be in a non thinking state unless someone has been practicing for a while. Yet, while making love, when thoughts come through my mind, just like when I meditate, I don’t let that thought become a conversation that would take my concentration out of my beloved. I don’t want to miss a second of my lover’s attention, so I’ve practiced. If my mind is going 1000 miles a second and not being helpful, I use willpower and take my thoughts to an extremely powerful and sexy moment in our connection, such as our first time.
If my mind is overactive, I visualize my beloved and I making love. This practice tames the overthinking mind and adds another layer of sexy, the mind suddenly working to my benefit.
Prior to lovemaking
- Set a romantic and mainly safe stage for lovemaking.
- Relax body and mind.
- Set a powerful intention such as to receive as much pleasure as is given, to reach union, to become more aligned.
- Surrender to lover’s touch. Decide that all of him is worthy of all of me.
- Calm overactive mind by reassuring that all is well. Remember the first time or a time when total surrender caused an orgasm.
During lovemaking
- Don’t hold anything back. When the intention is to reach an orgasm, there is a need to be open to one’s lover.
- Don’t judge the experience, myself, my lover.
- Be grateful. Gratitude makes everything sweeter and is a powerful manifestation technique.
- Be open. During this experience, we might pick up our partner’s thoughts, desires, and fantasies. Accept them without judgment.
- Be vulnerable.
- Share the best of me.
- Curve overactive mind by only engaging with thoughts that promote pleasure in my body. Visualizing my partner and I making love.
- If thinking too much: open eyes and feast off the view of my beloved.
- Surrender completely to the experience. Know that this is divine. I am worthy of this experience. I am worthy of feeling this much pleasure.
- Intend that my lover will receive my love, gratitude, and appreciation from this exchange.
- This exchange is an energetic one. Intend that our bodies will know how to interact with one another and provide each other the sweetest and most memorable experience.
- Let go of the need to have an orgasm. This will be an amazing experience regardless, and if I’m trying to hard, it will not happen.
After lovemaking
- Tell him how much I enjoyed it, or if not bold enough, let it be known.
- Be grateful. Tell him or not, feel gratitude for this experience.
- Sit in the vibe of lovemaking. A sexy energy was left behind, feel it.
- Understand I am worth the pleasure felt, and there is nothing wrong with what we did. On the contrary, as a spiritual experience, lovemaking gets us closer to God. .
- Feel my lover’s gratitude. He might not say it or recognize its gratitude, but he will be feeling it.
- Decide to do this again.
Dear friend, as a female, I reclaim my feminine power in the arms of my beloved. Our exchange is a safe experience where I can be my most vulnerable self. We engage with Love, respect, and passion. Our intention is to become closer, to please each other, and to feel pleasure ourselves, and we believe this is a gift from God, we will not judge or reject this gift from God.
If you’re inspired, I invite you to engage with your beloved in lovemaking with the knowledge that not only can you have the most delicious orgasm but it will make your life more enjoyable and, dare I say, will make the world a better place.
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Thanks for reading,
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With love and light,
Eve