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  • If You Believe in Love, You Probably Have These 10 Rare Traits

    Let’s be real: believing in love in the 21st century can feel like a radical act. In a world of swipe-left culture, ghosting, and cynical rom-coms, saying “I believe in love” can sometimes feel like admitting you still believe in unicorns.

    But here’s a little secret: believing in love isn’t naive. It’s not about ignoring heartbreak or waiting for a knight in shining armor. It’s a profound and powerful worldview, backed by a unique set of emotional and psychological skills. If you’re someone who holds this belief close to your heart, you likely possess these 10 rare and beautiful traits.

    1. You’re a Realistic Optimist (Not a Hopeless Romantic)

    Forget the “hopeless romantic” label. You’re something far more powerful: a realistic optimist. You don’t believe love is a magic wand that erases all problems. You’ve seen heartbreak, you know relationships require work, and you understand that Prince Charming probably leaves his socks on the floor. Your belief isn’t blind; it’s a conscious choice to focus on the potential for beauty and connection, even with a clear-eyed view of the challenges. Science is on your side here; studies show that realistic optimists are more resilient and have healthier, more lasting relationships because their expectations are grounded in reality, not fantasy.

    2. You Have a High “Emotional Pain Tolerance”

    This might sound strange, but stick with us. Believing in love requires a tremendous capacity to feel, and that includes the painful stuff. You don’t see heartbreak as a reason to build a fortress around your heart. Instead, you process the grief, learn from it, and somehow keep your heart open. This is a superpower. It means you understand that love and loss are two sides of the same coin, and you’ve decided the joy is worth the risk of pain. This trait is the bedrock of emotional resilience.

    3. You’re a Master of “Negative Alchemy”

    No, not dark magic. “Negative Alchemy” is the rare ability to transform relationship conflicts into connection. When you believe in love, you see arguments not as battles to be won, but as puzzles to be solved together. You’re more likely to use “I feel” statements, to seek to understand before being understood, and to see your partner not as an opponent, but as a teammate on the fritz. This is a skill most people aren’t taught, but you’ve likely cultivated it through intuition and a genuine desire for harmony.

    4. You See People’s “Future Selves”

    You don’t just love people for who they are; you have an uncanny ability to see and love who they are becoming. You see the potential, the tiny seeds of greatness, the hidden kindness beneath a rough exterior. You hold a safe, nurturing space for your partner, friends, and even yourself to grow. This trait is deeply tied to secure attachment, the ability to provide a “secure base” from which your loved ones can explore the world and become their best selves.

    5. You Practice “Active Appreciation”

    For you, gratitude isn’t just a journaling exercise. It’s an active verb. You notice the small things: the way they make you tea just how you like it, the dumb joke that always makes you laugh, the quiet comfort of their presence. And you voice it. This constant drip-feed of appreciation is like emotional compound interest; it builds a massive wealth of goodwill and connection over time. Research from the Gottman Institute shows that happy couples maintain a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions, and your active appreciation is the engine of that positivity.

    6. You Have Strong Personal Boundaries (Seriously!)

    This is the biggest misconception about people who believe in love. Your open heart isn’t a doormat. In fact, your belief in love is why you have strong boundaries. You understand that true love cannot thrive in an environment of disrespect, enmeshment, or constant self-sacrifice. You know your worth, and you’re able to say “no” and “this is not okay for me” precisely because you value the sanctity of a healthy connection. Your boundaries aren’t walls; they’re the gates that define the beautiful garden you’re tending.

    7. You’re Deeply Curious About Others

    You’re the person who asks the good questions. “What was the highlight of your week?” “What’s a dream you’ve never told anyone?” You believe that every person is a universe of stories, and you find genuine joy in exploring them. This curiosity keeps your relationships fresh and exciting, moving beyond surface-level small talk into the deep, nourishing waters of true intimacy.

    8. You Embrace “Loving Detachment”

    You understand that the deepest form of love is not possessive. It’s the ability to love someone without needing to control them. You can give your partner space to have their own hobbies, friends, and emotions without feeling threatened. This “loving detachment” is the opposite of indifference; it’s a confident, secure love that says, “I love you, and I trust you to be yourself.” This is freedom, and it’s the air that long-term love needs to breathe.

    9. You Find Love in the “Micro-Moments”

    While you believe in the grand, sweeping gestures of love, your true magic lies in finding it in the micro-moments. A shared glance across a crowded room. A silent, comfortable car ride. A hand on your back when you’re stressed. You understand what psychologist Barbara Fredrickson found in her research: that love is not a constant state, but a series of micro-moments of positive connection that, when woven together, create an unbreakable bond.

    10. You’re a Love Story Architect

    You don’t just wait for a love story to happen to you; you actively co-create it. You plan the adventures, you initiate the difficult conversations, you suggest the silly dance parties in the kitchen. You understand that love is a verb, and you are its willing, enthusiastic architect. You believe that a great love story isn’t found, it’s built, brick by intentional brick, day by beautiful day.

    So, if you see yourself in these traits, don’t ever let anyone tell you you’re “too much” or “naive.” Your belief in love isn’t a weakness; it’s your greatest strength. It’s a sophisticated, resilient, and powerfully rare way of moving through the world. Keep believing. The world needs your kind of magic.

    Thank you for reading and follow for more reads about Love, romance, and Union.

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    Eve

  • Conscious Coupling Rituals for Modern Lovers

    Rituals are the architecture of a conscious relationship. They are the intentional practices that build connection, foster appreciation, and create a shared culture for the two of you. They transform mundane moments into sacred ones.

    Rituals to Weave Into Your Relationship:

    • The Daily Check-In: A dedicated 15-20 minutes each day, perhaps over morning coffee or after work, where you share your “weather report.” How are you doing? What’s alive in you today? What’s one win and one struggle? This prevents small issues from festering and ensures you are constantly updating your internal map of each other.
    • Appreciation & Acknowledgment: Make it a daily ritual to express one specific thing you appreciate about your partner. Move beyond “Thanks for doing the dishes” to “I really appreciated the way you handled that stressful phone call with such grace. It was inspiring to watch.”
    • The Weekly “State of the Union” Meeting: This is a more structured, business-of-us meeting. It’s a neutral space to discuss logistics, finances, and any lingering tensions. The key rules: no blaming, use “I” statements, and the primary goal is understanding, not winning. It’s a preventative maintenance ritual that keeps small resentments from becoming major crises.
    • Technology-Free Zones & Times: Designate specific times or spaces as sacred and tech-free, the dinner table, the first hour after coming home, the bedroom. This ritual actively defends your “we” space from the constant intrusion of the digital world.
    • The “Reunion” Ritual: Pay attention to how you greet each other after time apart. Instead of a distracted “hey” while scrolling, create a ritual of a six-second kiss, a full embrace, or even just a moment of eye contact and a genuine “It’s good to see you.” This marks the transition from separate worlds back into your shared one.

    Thank you for reading and follow for more reads about Love, romance, and Union.

    Lovestar Temple is opening.
    A sanctuary for love, devotion, sensuality, and soul-awakening.
    I’m channeling goddess messages, rituals, union teachings, erotic healing, and monthly practices to guide you into deeper love – with yourself and with another.

    If you feel the call, join the temple:
    Exclusive Patreon rituals
    Goddess messages
    Private union teachings

    Enter the temple. Your heart already knows the way.

    https://www.patreon.com/c/HerTemple

    Eve

  • The power of conscious sex

    Trigger alert! ⚠️🚨⚠️ I will be talking about unconscious sex!!! Read only if you will not have an unwanted response!

    Sex can be many things. It can be sweet lovemaking. It can be deceptive, stolen, and sold. Sex can hurt, or it can heal. Sex can be very unconscious. But can sex be conscious?

    Dear friend, I am not writing this post with  judgment in my heart. I have settled for the lower vibing sex, too. Though I judge myself a bit because we tend to be stricter, tougher on ourselves than others, I am not judging your experience. My intention with this post is to debate this topic. I am journaling. I am also not putting conscious sex on a pedestal because I feel I appreciate conscious sex much more after experiencing unconscious sex.

    What is conscious sex?

    Sex can be very unconscious. So then, by contrast, there has to be conscious sex. Sex is obviously very private, and we don’t get to know, like we know people who are conscious about their diet, conscious about their speech, or conscious about their appearance, but many of the people we know should be engaging in conscious sex. And if they’re not, there’s something wrong with this world. I do believe there’s something wrong with this world, but I believe we can help balance the energies through conscious sex.

    According to the dictionary, to be conscious is to be aware of and respond to our surroundings. In the context of sex, I would say conscious sex is when we engage in sex in a way that we are aware of what we’re doing. There are no tricks played, and both partners engage openly and willingly.  Responding to our surroundings during conscious sex sounds to me, like engaging with a positive intention, responding to our partner, being sensitive, and being open.

    Being conscious can also mean being awake. Awake neaning aware, knowing something that some don’t know exist, to bring that which is unconscious into our consciousness. In the context of sex, and in a more spiritual light, I would say conscious sex can be to engage, knowing secrets about sex that are not available to all (if you have any such secrets, please blow the whistle on the comments). To engage in a ritualistic way (for the light). To perform sexual magic, etc.

    Is conscious sex lovemaking? Conscious sex is lovemaking, but not all lovemaking is conscious.

    My personal experience

    I was all messed up when I was matched by the universe with my beloved twin flame. Previous to meeting him, I didn’t understand, appreciate, or love myself. Unfortunately,  when those things are lacking, we tend to give ourselves easier than when our self-love is strong.

    I was also heartbroken from childhood trauma. My chakras were out of alignment. I was not my healthiest or most beautiful.

    This was until my beloved worked his magic on me. I’m a different woman now that I’ve been touched by him. I believe he shone a light into me. It was a light so bright that anything that was not in alignment with it was obliterated. And so he blessed me from the inside out with the power of conscious sex. This is his superpower and the superpower of twin flame sex.

    The power of conscious sex

    Conscious sex heals. It can heal sexual trauma. It can even help heal us from sexual abuse.

    Conscious sex helps us ascend. It shines a light on low vibing energies within the body and, therefore, it can raise our vibration.

    Conscious sex can free us from heavy, ancestral energies, karma, and even curses. Set up a powerful intention as you engage.

    Conscious sex is a powerful tool for manifestation. Using the energies of the exchange to create the world we want to live in and be a part of.

    Conscious sex can create a beloved family.

    Conscious sex is a way to connect to source, spirit, and the universe. It’s a prayer of love.

    Conscious sex can help ascend the low sex vibes on Earth. The low vibes are all around us, and we’re all interacting with these energies. Through Conscious sex, just like it can support our bodies and get the low sex energies out of our bodies, so to can Conscious sex work the low sex energies in our planet until eventually, if we’re successful in our mission of love, one day there will be more Conscious than unconscious sex on Earth and healing will come. Sex will have ascended on Earth.

    Please tell me on the comments of your experience or opinions about conscious sex.

    Also, share how and what you manifest through conscious sex.

    With love and light,

    Eve

  • Sex. Don’t Fake Till You Make it. Do this instead…

    TRIGGER ALERT!!! This post could trigger sexual trauma and open unhealed wounds. I intend this brings you. healing. If you are aware of unhealed sexual trauma, don’t read this, instead message me through the Contact tool under Menu.

    “Fake it till you make it”

    Obviously, when we fake it, we are not being vulnerable, we’re not honestly showing our struggle, or we don’t know how to show our learning progress. Perhaps we feel embarrassed and  though we don’t talk about this, there’s a fake element to faking it.

    Some would fake it to appear smarter, more able to learn or perform, to appear “better” than they feel they are. This, I believe, stems from feeling inadequate, insecure, or not enough. This is, in my humble opinion, putting on a false mask that makes you appear able to do what you’re faking while buying you time to learn at a slower pace.

    The point we miss is that we’re all different and learning is a process. It’s obviously not only ok but expected to not know what you’re learning on day 1. There’s studying and practicing before we’re successful in whatever we’re learning and this includes sex. We will not be a sex god or goddess on day 1! Nor should we be.

    In sex, what does it mean to fake it?

    We fake it when we pretend to be enjoying ourselves during sex. We might act as if we had an orgasm, making the noises and movements that we believe we would make if we were having a real orgasm. We might vocalize, some might scream or say they’re having an orgasm like we see on the movies.

    In pretending to be enjoying ourselves, our partner would falsely believe that they are more able than they are to basically get us off sexually. Typically, when our partner has an amazing time while we have sex, we feel great about ourselves and therefore our self esteem is heightened. When we fake it, our partner might think they’re able to give us an orgasm when in truth they’re unable to or we’re not able to have an orgasm ourselves regardless of their ability.

    Typically and sadly, women fake orgasms. Nowadays, it’s well known that only a small percentage of women can actually achieve an orgasmic reaction to vaginal sex only. Many of us need much more than just vaginal sex to achieve it, some of us have never had one. Some of us, lucky ones, will find a special person later on who will be so incredible that we will finally reach the desired outcome.

    When we fake it, we exaggerate these noises and movements and if we don’t know what an orgasm really feels like, we might look and/ or feel fake. Therefore many are aware that their partner can fake it or might doubt their partner’s overt reactions! Watch out because if you get caught faking it, this might cause your partner’s self esteem to drop as if they’re unable to bring you to the gates of heaven through that most elusive female orgasm and they might be able to give you one if they just knew what to give you and how.

    Why do we fake it?

    I believe that some people might not even realize they are faking it, some people might think that they’re meant to make a bunch of noise or do certain things that might indicate they’re having a great time. It doesn’t help that porn is readily available for free and even movies paint a picture about sex that’s unreal, unnatural, and fake. It also doesn’t help that we’re exposed to that perversion of lovemaking early on. We seem to forget that is acting and obviously not real, and if we imitate it, we might not meet our expectations and/ or our partner’s expectations.

    People imitate the actions of movie stars, who are clearly acting, and not having a real orgasm for several reasons. It might look sexy from the outside looking in but reminder!!! that’s not what sex is like. When we engage in sex, we’re in the inside experiencing, not on the outside looking in! When we experience, we are not making a show for outsiders who can’t feel the act and our partner can feel us so there’s no need to put on a show.

    There’s probably many different reasons why people fake it. Certainly, a reason is we want to please our partner. We might feel that our partner wants the hot porn star, yet, in faking an orgasm, we’re not giving our partner the choice to please us. In truth, if our partner wants some hot movie star, then perhaps this is not the article for you, or if you’re in a soulmate or twin flame relationship, then perhaps you’re out of alignment, I’ve been there too! Finally, if you have been faking it, your partner might think it’s hot because it looks like a movie, yet they might be deprived of giving you the real experience.

    I’ll be honest with you, I’ve never faked it! Ever. First of all, I don’t believe in giving a mediocre partner a sense that they are able to bring me to an orgasm! And you might guess that I have indeed had sex with a mediocre partner and it’s true, I’m in the process of forgiving myself. An orgasm is something that I’ve only been able to achieve with my beloved, the one I call my twin flame, my one true love. It’s not something a woman achieves with anyone.

    Don’t Fake it. Instead do this.

    Females rejoice! We really have it good in sex! We don’t have the pressure males have when it comes to having one massive orgasm where if they fail to have one, they’ll have the hated “blue balls”. The universe blessed us with the incredible ability to have multiple orgasms, even to enjoy orgasm after orgasm and feel like the sex act was one massive orgasm, we have the ability to orgasm from the beginning to the end of the sexual encounter. We’re the orgasm queens and goddesses on this planet. So first of all relax and have fun with this. It can be a project, a self growth goal, a quest even, or something like a new year resolution or goal.

    But even if we’re unable to ask about what we need (I totally understand) there’s really no need to act as if we’re having an orgasm we’re not having and the joke is on us if we make our partner believe we love something we don’t even like and then we get that treatment daily! Instead start little by little indicating what you do love, whether it’s a kiss, a touch, a sight that is delightful. There’s always something truly pleasing if you are in a committed relationship. Our partners respond to what we love by paying close attention to our response and giving us more of what they believe we love and this is why you should not fake it if you want a truly enjoyable and healthy sex life.

    So don’t fake it! If you can, speak up. If you can’t speak up, fantasize! It’s a simple way to manifest what you truly desire. Well, I came to realize after years of fantasizing, that fantasies are not private at all, fantasies are energy that gets shared, just like thoughts are. What you’re fantasizing about, those thoughts are interacting with your partner! Also because when you fantasize, you’re working yourself closer to the place you need to be to reach the desired orgasm. Personally, when I needed to warm up, I go to my special place (in my head) which is our first night together, the night I had my first orgasm, I call this my master fantasy.

    What to do instead of faking it. Tips and tricks.

    • Relax and have fun
    • Be honest and vulnerable
    • Don’t make them think you love something you don’t love
    • Fantasize about what you want in bed
    • Create a master fantasy (for me it’s my first night with my beloved)
    • Respond to what you love in the natural way your body responds
    • Don’t block the natural response: scream or moan if you feel you should, be quiet if that’s more natural. If you’re having a full on body response and start shaking uncontrollably, let that be, and if your body tenses up, then allow that too. If you can speak, say their name or the expression that comes most naturally, and if it’s not possible to say anything, don’t force it. There’s no one size fits all.
    • Don’t watch porn or movies about sex to learn. No judgement if you do or have but figure out your own personal response rather than imitating acting from a movie.
    • Take charge and do what you love most
    • Experiment! You might enjoy even some things you thought you didn’t like

    The spiritual significance of faking it

    My beloved is Scorpio and don’t fake it with Scorpio because not only is Scorpio more than able to “get you off” but they can feel you and when they figure out you have been faking it, they might feel betrayed. Don’t lie to Scorpio! They would question why you did it and they will wonder what else you have been faking. Additionally, they might feel as though you are fake or not trustworthy.

    Spiritually speaking, and for those of us who believe in manifestation, it is possible that we’re manifesting what we don’t love most by faking an orgasm. We might be mistakenly manifesting  not our highest and most rewarding sex life. Additionally, it feels that by faking it, we’re aligning to something that’s not our highest vibe. Perhaps, we have mistakenly calibrated to a lower vibe, perhaps we’ve even calibrated to some perverted porn vibe. And if any perverted vibes have entered our reality, it’s entirely possible that lower, even dark energies (even entities) are feeding off our sexual energy which feels to be our highest creation energy.

    This is nothing to be feared and probably most of us have at some point picked up lower sex vibes. We could have picked up some lower sex vibes from friends, past lovers, abuse, trauma, karma, ancestral energy, curses, or by choosing/ accepting this energy by mistake. I understand, for some, this is crazy superstition but if you read this blog, does that resonate?

    Is it making love if I fake it?

    When we make love we are vulnerable and share ourselves completely with a willing and loving partner. This is the opposite of faking it. Sex can be faked but lovemaking is the real thing.

    If you’re lucky enough to have sex with your twin flame, don’t fake it.

    If you are lucky enough to have sex with your twin flame, don’t fake it! It is a great honor to actually engage in this way with your twin and don’t taint the energy with fake vibes! This might sound harsh but if you’re interested in having an honest relationship with your twin, then please engage with complete honesty. It could be considered running (and us twins don’t like that) from ourselves…

    Respectfully and never in judgement,

    with Love and light,

    Eve